SHHH! STOP BLABBING YOUR GOAL TO AWAKEN YOUR DREAM

I TOLD YOU I WANTED TO BUY A CAR, IM STILL HIKING,

I TOLD YOU I WANTED TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL, IM STILL NOT ENROLLED,

I TOLD YOU ABOUT EVERY MAN THAT PURSUADED ME, IM STILL SINGLE.

I THOUGHT I WAS CURESED YOU AGREED WITH ME,

ALL ALONG MY MISTAKE WAS TELLING YOU MY DREAM.

Imagine you tell a friend that you want to start your own company. Your friend has an "Oh, wow, that's great!" reaction and you get an amazement of satisfaction and pride. You feel so satisfied, in fact, that you lose motivation to even jot down a business proposal. Why should I jot it down, when I’m already reaping the benefits of being known as business owner?

 New research conducted at New York University found that blabbing about your goal can give you a false sense of accomplishment, making you less likely to actually go after it. By not telling anyone, you're making sure your goal is something you're really doing for yourself," says K.C. McCulloch, PhD, an assistant professor at Idaho State University who worked on the study.

Telling others your goals is also an unhealthy way to seek approval, according to Dr. Robert Anthony in The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence. Negative people get the chance to talk you out of what you want to do.

He calls this the “Secrecy Principle”

“By disclosing your goals you will dissipate valuable energy needed to accomplish them, as well as set up opposition from those who wish to control you.” Most people will try to talk you out of your goals. They dislike seeing anyone having more or doing better than they are, and will resort to almost any extreme to put down someone who tries to break away from mediocrity .Don’t give nay-sayers an opportunity to rip apart your ideas before you even get started.

"What stops a lot of people from doing the things they dream of is other people," says Susan B. Wilson, a life coach in Michigan and founder of Get Over It, Move On! "If you tell someone you want to apply to a graduate program, they may go on about how terrible the campus is... and you may start to believe them when you really should be trusting your own gut. “Beyond that, loved ones may have ulterior motives for being pessimists. If you announce that you're going to be devoting tons of time to a big goal, a good friend or your significant other may worry that he or she will see less of you and subconsciously distract you from the finish line.

Keeping your dream a secret will help your cause: You'll be so antsy finally to be able to share it with everyone that you'll put your nose to the grindstone and get it done as fast as possible. And doing something just for you feels selfish in a really good way. "Women tend to overextend themselves for loved ones," says psychologist Lucy Jo Palladino, PhD, author of Find Your Focus Zone. "So if they can have something that is solely theirs, it can feel really special."

Make sure you pick the right person to share your dream with. "Choose someone you trust completely who has never been competitive with you and has been successful at achieving her own goals, Can't think of anyone who fits the bill? Zip your damn lips, and try writing an anonymous blog.